Yes, You read the title right. You can tell exactly whether you will be successful or not. No tarot cards, no tea leaves – only science. You can predict your future with scientific certainty. All you have to do is tell me one thing. What’s that thing? Here it is…
Tell me who the people in your circle are, and I’ll tell you exactly who you will be, with 100% certainty.
I can guarantee one thing… Take a good look at the people in your circle; people you hang around with. I assure you that you will not be better or more successful than they are.
When you hang out with people who are more successful than you are, it’s true that you will get access to information and resources that make you more successful. But that’s not the only impact of the right circle in your life. The greatest influence that successful people can have is on your perspective. Successful people in your circle expand your horizon. You begin to see things differently when you join their circle. What you thought was impossible or out of reach, all of a sudden, looks quite possible and even ordinary in that circle.
On the other hand, if you surround yourself with less successful people, your perspective will start shrinking. Keep in mind, that this is not a judgment about people who are not successful. But if someone is not successful in an area of life, chances are he/she is lacking one of the necessities of success, be it decision making, hard work, attitude, etc.
Crabs in the Bucket
Another reason you should surround yourself with successful people is because of “Demand for Conformity”. Any group of people demands its members to comply with the rest of the group, whether consciously or subconsciously. If your circle is filled with successful people, others tend to pull you up to make sure you are at their level of success. This act greatly helps their self-esteem and how positively they view themselves. Moreover, they don’t subconsciously see you as a competitor or threat to their success.
Likewise, if you surround yourself with less successful people, they tend to pull you down, either intentionally or subconsciously. That makes them feel better about their own worth and self-esteem, since your failure will remind them that they are not alone. You might have heard about the expression, “Crabs in the Bucket”, which refers to this very same situation. If you put a bunch of crabs in a bucket, none of them can ever climb out of the bucket, because as soon as one starts moving up, others pull him down.
How Can You Get Into the Right Circles?
You may ask: Well, if everyone tries to get into better circles, then why would more successful people want me in their circle? How can I get into higher circles?
First of all, remember that, joining a circle is not always physical. Joining the right circle can be your conscious effort to live in the reality of that circle. Read their books, follow their advice, go to their talks. When you mentally follow someone, you become like him/her. You can physically join a group by being helpful to them, volunteer for activities, or you can even provide services in return for access. You must earn your entry to the circle of more successful people. Fortunately, today’s ease of access and communications has made it easier to choose your circle. So if you want to see your future, do this:
Take a good look at the people with whom you surround yourself. That’s a glimpse into your future
Do you like what you see?